This time I
want to talk about, as you can guess from the title, confidence. I’ve just been
a bit too lazy, to just start writing about, and I’ve had a small marathon,
which consisted of watching anime the last couple of days. And I’ve also been a
bit (a lot!) guilty of procrastinating.
A cliché as
it sounds, it started at work around two weeks ago, where I just suddenly realised
that I’m actually quite confident compared to how I was just 2 years ago. I’m
still struggling a bit about my confidence, but it’s getting so much better for
me. There has been a few tricks (if you can call it that) to boost my confidence.
Just to point it out that I’m not a professional and this is just from experience,
but I’d like to share some of those things that helped me to boost my
confidence.
There is no
certain order to do these things, just do them, even though it can sound a bit
silly.
Embrace your imperfection!
Oh yes,
those annoying imperfections, you find about yourself that you just hate.
Embrace them and accept them as a bit of you! No one is perfect, and it’s the
little imperfections that make you who you are. You have zits? They’re not permanent!
You have a crooked nose? So do I! You don’t like your hair? Well, I do!
I can
already point out what kind of things I don’t like about my body, but I’m
slowly getting to that point, where I accept and embrace them, because they’re
a part of me. For the longest time I e.g. didn’t like my crooked nose at all,
but I’m slowly starting to love it, because it’s a part of me, and I don’t want
to change that. Even though there are still a few things you can change, if you
want to. E.g. I have a bit of bad skin with a little acne, redness and
blackheads, but I try to get a skincare routine which might help with my skin
problem (have seen a bit of change!). But I’ve decided that my skin problem
should not be a problem to my confidence, because my skin does not define me,
but the way I act, think and so on, which has nothing to do with your looks,
defines me.
Love yourself!
It’s sooo
important to be able to love yourself. Yes, you have imperfections, but there are
also perfections about you. E.g. you like your body, then you should show it! I’m
not talking about bragging, but it is okay to love yourself. I’ve been thinking
for a long time that I was not allowed to like myself, because that would seem
arrogant. But I AM allowed to like myself. We are human beings, and we have to
be able to live with ourselves, and we should be allowed to like ourselves
without thinking other people will find it arrogant.
We are
allowed to think that we are hot, beautiful, sexy and all that positive
thinking about ourselves! Yes, there are people, who will try to bring us down,
and it can be really hard to try to ignore them. That’s why we have to work on
our confidence to just brush those mean comments, from people, aside.
You can
just stand in front of the mirror and say: “I’m hot!“, “I’m sexy as hell!”, “I’m
worth it!” and all kinds of positive thinks about yourself.
You could even listen to different songs to boost your confidence. It helped me!
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| Found on 9gag. Just think it's fitting. |
And don’t
you just find this picture fitting for this? Yes, we’re allowed to think that
we are just sexy as hell, and there is NOTHING wrong with us! And if you have a
friend giving a mean comment about you, then just tell them to shut up, and if
they always do it, then they are not a real friend. A bit harsh to say, but it’s
true. I’ve had a few friends, who would bring me down, but now that I’m not
friends with those people anymore, I feel lighter and better about myself. It
was tough in the beginning, but everyday I’m smiling more and more and I feel
my confidence boost almost every day.
Yes, there
are days, where you literally just feel like shit, but it’s okay. That happens,
and it’s also okay to feel sad, as long as you just in the end stand up and
fight for yourself.
Yes, a long
rant, but I’m not really sorry about it. I just hope it might help some of you
out there, who are struggling with their confidence, and I really just want to
be able to help in one way or another.
And a
question for you now! Do you have any tricks on how you boost you own
confidence?
EDIT: Just realized that the post was mostly about confidence in your looks, but it's not just that! It can also be about one's personality, but I focused more on the looks, because that what's I've been struggling with the most.
